Monday, December 07, 2015
Bouncing Off the Walls
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
Wednesday, September 09, 2009
You can lay about in bed, but it's hard to lie about it
While tracking down a UNC baseball jersey, i ran into my friend Corinne. We talked briefly, but both failed to mention we were in town mainly for a wedding. When we saw each other the next day at that wedding, it was pretty funny. i knew almost as many people at Ashley's friend's wedding as she did. We also saw Mr. B, my scout leader and session liaison with his sons, all their for the Citadel game (as he and one son are alum).
We stayed 3 nights with Ashley's mom, in Ashley's old room. Ashley's old room has Ashley's old bed. Ashley's old bed was probably purchased from the Flinstones when they traded in for a much softer granite queen size mattress and pummis pillows. When i say firm, i don't mean like the state troopers in Ohio, i mean like King Henry VIII's divorce attorney.
i'm generally a heavy sleeper with very low standards for comfort. i have compiled a list of places i have slept more soundly than my 3 nights on "The Slab..." (apologies to all of those of you who prefer sleeping on firm mattresses. i am apparently not one of those)
-Every single camping trip i ever went on in over 10 years of scouting (including tree roots, washed out gulleys and sleeping through trains running 50 ft away from my tent).
-In a closet in a house in Montreat
-The kitchen at PCM in college
-Dozens of couches
-Jen Kling's arm chair (sideways, all night, i am still pissed at her and Jon for this, mostly Jon, he took the couch)
-My dorm floor
-My dorm futon
-The concrete floor of the bunkhouse at Grier
-A dozen desks in high school
-The floor of my Hebrew class in seminary
-The desk i took my AP Calculus exam on
-The DC Metro
-Dozens of cars, vans and buses
-A chairlift
-The shower
-The Undergraduate Library at UNC
-Davis Library at UNC
-The Student Union at UNC
-Morton Library at seminary
-The futon in the staff lounge at seminary
-The pool table in the youth room at a church
-The sidewalk outside the Dean Dome (once for UT football tickets, once for good riser seats to the Dook b-ball game)
-A 5-tier chain-link bunk on an aircraft carrier
-Dozens of airports, domestic and foreign
-A set of stairs
-The dock at Camp Grier on Lake Refuse, covered in dew, sharing a sleeping bag with 3 other people
i think that covers it. Where have YOU slept that kept you up all night?
Sunday, July 26, 2009
Tuesday, April 07, 2009
Pursuit of happiness...
Let’s imagine a court case. A man goes to a local restaurant. It’s a family establishment run by a little old lady in her 70’s. She’s Baptist and her religious beliefs dictate that she will not abide by drinking nor serve alcohol. She’ll provide water, milk, ice tea, lemonade, sodas, and all kinds of beverages… but not alcohol.
Along comes a man one day who orders a beer. The little old lady informs him that it is against her strict religious beliefs to serve him alcohol but that he can certainly go next door or to any of 100 bars or restaurants or grocery stores within easy driving distance if he so wishes.
The man tells this little old lady that this interferes with his Constitutional rights, his right to pursuit of happiness. She insists her right to freedom of religion is equally important and her right is not preventing him from exercising his rights. In fact, requiring her to serve him alcohol would inhibit her rights and going elsewhere would not impinge his.
The man sues the little old lady and the governor tells her that she cannot prevent him from exercising his right to enjoy alcohol regardless of her own rights.
Seem fair?
Now substitute “little old lady” with “pharmacist” and “alcohol” with “morning-after pill.” Substitute “restaurant” for “pharmacy” and other restaurants and bars for the same. Grocery stores may stay the same. This exact thing happened in Blegoyavich’s town. Now how do we decide these kinds of cases? How far do we let an individual’s rights extend, particularly when there is an alternative? Your thoughts?
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
Learning from mobsters
Friday, March 06, 2009
Who Watches those Watchmen?
While this long graphic novel would have lent itself more readily to a miniseries than a movie, the movie did justice to the content and story and even improved the ending dramatically with few editorial licenses. The opening credit montage did a phenomenal job of paying homage to the 50 year history done in flashbacks in the novel.
However, the opening credits were also the last time music was used well. The movie tanked in the music department immediately following the credits. Pop songs were superimposed in scenes to make them hokie, rather than intense or profound. This included the worst version of Hallelujia i have ever heard. The songs were also too loud. They drowned out everything else. The music in all the previews made it dark and none of it was pop, it was heavy. Utterly confusing.
i'm really sorry i dragged some of my friends to it because it was not nearly as good as the previews. i will later add a top 10 list of movies with phenomenally high preview to movie greatness ratio.
Best previews: Terminator: Salvation and Star Trek. The new Trek preview reveals a lot more and it looks great! The Terminator movie, starring Christian Bale looks like it takes the best of that franchise and adds the coolest tech and CGI from all the lastest action films and Transformers without being as hokie. INTENSE SUMMER!
Monday, March 02, 2009
Weekend Update
After the game, we caught dinner at Sakura's with Brian & Ashley (Hummel & Coffey). Was nice to catch up. We then grabbed coffee with Kyle & Jess and called it a night.
We went to Chapel Hill Bible Church and saw some of Ashley's people. i went there all of freshman year of college to teach 7th grade boys Sunday school. i began to think about how old those boys would be and realized they are now coming up on the end of their freshman year of college. They are now the age i was when i was teaching them.
The man sitting next to us looked familiar so i asked him if he used to drive a van to campus to pick up students. He said, "yes, a long time ago." i asked if it was about 7 years ago and he said yes. i told him i'd like to thank him since he helped me have one of my first chances to teach and now i'm graduating from seminary.
Thursday, February 26, 2009
A time and place for all things
There is, in fact, a time for everything under heaven.
i went to see the Vagina Monologues tonight at Union. They were held on campus, in the chapel, Watts chapel.
i went, firstly, because i felt the need to be informed, as i have never been, despite numerous opportunities. i also went, principally, to support my friends who were performing in the production. Several of my friends whom i love and respect were involved, including the professor i respect most of all my seminary teachers.
i can say they did a truly spectacular job. They performed extraordinarily well and delivered a great show. It also caused me to think, reflect, learn, laugh, and almost cry. i also think they are to be commended for their sincere efforts to stop violence toward women and girls in all parts of the world by donating proceeds to worthy causes. All that being said, seeing the play made me all the more certain that it had no business being in the Chapel of our seminary.
The play discussed many instances of abuse and force that threatened and hurt women. It discussed the ideas directly and indirectly that sex has a time and place and that it should not be forced. Sex in the wrong place or time, such as at a young age, or without consent, like date rape or family incest or systematic torture in war are wrong.
My point? Why is the use of a sacred worship space which is not only important to the performers and the audience, but hundreds, nay thousands, of Alumni who may have approved or disapproved of this use of this sacred worship space any different from, well, a woman's body?
There is a time to yell. It's not around sleeping babies. There is a time to discuss your sex life with your spouse. This is probably not around your 6 year old child or someone else's. There is a time to be intimate with that spouse. It's not on the sidelines of your 17 year old's soccer game. There is a time for adults to discuss the rights and the joys and the sorrows and the humor of female anatomy, but it is NOT in a chapel.
Why? It's not just my chapel or the Presbyterian chapel, but God's chapel, and it is a special place of worship of many of God's children. i fielded a phone call from a very unhappy Alumni about the use of our campus space for this (and she didn't even know it was the chapel). She cannot have been the only one, and despite popular opinion, i am by far not the most conservative person on campus or among the Alumni. Like discussed in the play, this was in the wrong time and place, and it was forced. i don't know for sure if hey pooled any or many older alumni to see if they found this an appropriate use of Watts chapel, but i know i was not asked as a current student how i felt about the space i worship, pray, and preach in being used this way or how it might reflect on us as a body of believers and how i will be associated with this seminary when i am looking for a call this summer.
At a time when the seminary is desperately struggling to find money and bring people together, this is a horrible time to do something so controversial. There is a time and purpose for all things, and this was NOT it.
Struggles...
Things i've become very intentional about and MATTER to me (in no particular order of importance):
i try very hard not to call dreadlocks, "dreads." i call them dreadlocks or locks if i can remember. My buddy from a YAV discernment weekend had locks and reminded me that they got their name from slave drivers who thought they looked DREADFUL. Since most of them i have seen make me envious, i try to be culturally sensitive and reflect that.
i haven't used the word "gay" to refer to anything dumb since probably 9th grade. My youth group had a mantra, "gay doesn't mean stupid." We had to say it a lot to one of my good friends. i'm kinda of proud of my youth group for this.
i won't say, "i love you, but..." i read an article in Reader's Digest in college in which a man wrote that the 3 most beautiful words in the English language were "i love you," and the 4 most hurtful were, "i love you, but..." i believe this is true. i won't do it.
i rarely, if ever say "your mom" or "your mama" to anyone about anything. i do occassionally slip up since it was prevelant on my hall in college. It was a common cutdown and putdown since i was in grade school. However, too many people have tenuous relationships with parents or have lost parents and it's just not a good idea. "That's what she said," is pretty darn funny though.
Speaking of mama's, i won't ask a woman about her baby or pregnancy unless she herself has told me she IS pregnant. So much trouble to be had there. DON'T DO IT!
i almost NEVER tell jokes any more about women or blondes, even though in the past i told jokes about men and brunettes to balance it out. And i will NEVER tell a race joke, despite my non-belief in race, or maybe because of it. There are too many barriers to unity and harmony already without my speed bumps added to the mix. i will still tell my one Irish joke and i make no apologies. i'm Irish, i love Ireland and it's people (i'm even wearing my Made in Ireland shirt as i write this), it's not that bad, and it's mostly very true. So there. Deal.
Things i still struggle with:
i can't get behind ethnic or racial labels. At all. i have trouble with keeping up with labels of different races because race is a human construction, and as long as we keep labeling it and pointing it out and holding meetings exclusive to one or the other and put it on standardized tests and census forms and driver's licenses and applications and talk about the culture of various skin tones, we perpetuate a divisive myth.
i also struggle with names like Indians or Native Americans or First Peoples. i mean, none are very accurate. 'Indians' is inacurate because it's a holdover from Columbus' mistake. 'Native' is absurd since most scientist recognize they emigrated here on land mass, rather than by boat. 'First People' is rather confusing if you consider they weren't the first people, just the first people on this continent, and that's too long a name. Thus: struggle.
i've also been struggling for the past few years about Biblical authority on various topics. For instance, i've never held myself to kosher eating habits because i read post-Gospel books as repealing those requirements. But i also ignore things like wearing two different kinds of threads in one shirt and i don't blow a big horn every month or wear white all the time or fringe on my shirts, etc which are all Biblical mandates that i never see repealed. So what then do i do with passages forbidding homosexual behavior? Do i decide that's important and should be considered sinful and condemn gay friends or do i lump it into archaic culturally significant requests like women not speaking in church or wearing bonnets? i'm not willing to do that, to simply dismiss anything Biblical. So, i continue to struggle, read, discern, pray and ask for God's guidance and the Holy Spirit to be present each time i read the Bible, and of course, listen to people whom i love and respect.
One no one cares about:
i will NOT buy Girl Scout cookies from a parent of a Girl Scout. Not in a tree, not with a flea. Not in a house, not with a mouse. i WILL buy from ANY GIRL Scout who asks me (much to my poor wife's chagrin). However, i'm pretty isolated from that in my current state of life, so i got away with only buying 2 boxes this year. (this policy may change in protest if the boxes keep going up in price)
**Picture by a friend, Emilie Fingado. She's a rockin' great artist.**
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
How old are we?
As a 25 year old male, i think can speak to the maturity a 27 year old should have reached, especially one who is aware of the public spotlight he is under. This article is worth the read, as it is by a democrat and one of the few who seems to be holding this guy to any kind of accountability.
Monday, February 16, 2009
Profound insight...
It occurred to me a year or two ago that maybe i also hate bubbles because i dislike polka dots immensely and what could be worse than three dimensional moving polka dots? But now something else occurs to me. Maybe i dislike polka dots in part due to my general dislike for polka music. Something to this?
Sunday, February 15, 2009
A shoe in...
This week, we watched Birth of a Nation. It was intense. Besides, a 3 hour movie from 1915 with no dialogue or narration is hard to take. i made the comment about 2 hours in, "i've hit my quota of silent productions for the next 10 years."
i forgot that ballets are silent. We went to see Cinderella last night. It was good. The music was excellent. It was pretty hard though with no dialogue or narration for the second night in a row.
By far, the best part was when Cinderella turned into Star Wars for a few minutes in the second act. The "clock dwarfs" came out with Father Time. They were tiny dancers in hooded brown robes. i nearly shouted, "Look, JAWAS!" And right then, they all began turning on their glowing red lights. They looked just like Jawas! The husband in the couple next to us said the same thing during the intermission and we were both clearly more excited for act 3.
Friday, February 06, 2009
1. Faith-based initiatives. John DiIulio, the first director of Pres. Bush' Office of Faith-Based Initiatives, says rightly that George Bush deserves credit for making government-religious organization partnerships a viable option. Religious organizations have always served the public. Government in America has always had partnerships with church-sponsored agencies. Since the Second World War, though, government has been very circumspect about tax money being used for a clearly religious purpose. If a church taught people to read, for example, they could get government money; if they taught people to read the Bible and believe it, they could not.
Some problems, though, respond best to life-changing faith. Getting addicts to change their lives is very hard, and nothing works all the time. Still, approaches that get people to rely on a "higher power" have the best track record. Many people in social services had come to recognize this fact in the 1980s and '90s, even secular activists. If the government was serious about changing the lives of the most troubled and dangerous people, they needed to let God in, and pay the expenses. George W. Bush was the man who turned this once-taboo idea into a real government program. Indeed, Pres. Obama embraced the idea early and enthusiastically, though he plans to expand it beyond Pres. Bush's initiative. Faith-based programs are now part of the bipartisan base of government.
2. Fighting AIDS in Africa. This is a faith-based initiative, and much more. Frankly, I have been surprised that Pres. Bush made this commitment early, stuck to it, and put some real money inton it. It doesn't fit with the rest of the foreign policy of his administration. It produces no immediate benefit for the interests of the U.S. government or major U.S. businesses. I think this one comes right from Pres. Bush's heart.
3. The week of September 11, 2001. The high point of the Bush presidency. He rallied the country. He said clearly that Islam was not the enemy, and opposed all efforts to demonize Muslims here or abroad. An imam was included in the national prayer service for the first time. He went to Ground Zero and praised the emergency responders. The world stood with the U.S. as never before.
i hope i can make a similar list after the next several presidents. i'm waiting...
Sunday, February 01, 2009
Because i don't care who is in office...
Obama’s Oval Office Hypocrisy
By Steven Milloy
The New York Times reported on Thursday, January 29 that:
“…the capital flew into a bit of a tizzy when, on his first full day in the White House, President Obama was photographed in the Oval Office without his suit jacket. There was, however, a logical explanation: Mr. Obama, who hates the cold, had cranked up the thermostat.
“He’s from Hawaii, O.K.?” said Mr. Obama’s senior adviser, David Axelrod, who occupies the small but strategically located office next door to his boss. “He likes it warm. You could grow orchids in there.”
Could this be the same Barack Obama who said last May that:
“We can’t drive our SUVs and eat as much as we want and keep our homes on 72 degrees at all times… and then just expect that other countries are going to say ‘OK.’ … That’s not leadership. That’s not going to happen.”
And could this be the same Barack Obama who is looking to sign a stimulus bill that would spend billions of dollars installing millions of “smart meters” that would enable your power company to prevent you from being as comfortable as he is on hot and cold days?
While our new president is warm-and-toasty in the Oval Office, is he considering the plight of Michigan’s Marvin Schur, a 93-year World War II veteran, who was recently found frozen to death courtesy of a malfunctioning electricity “limiter” device installed by his power company?
Change has come to Washington. Elitism is dead. Long live elitism.
Tuesday, January 27, 2009
Monday, January 26, 2009
Gran Cinema
i know that every film out there now claims to be a moving story of redemption, but it could not be more true of any other movie. The movie tackles what it means to come to terms with a lifetime of mistakes and regret and make a few good choices before it's all over. Along the way, it tackles in a meaningful and realistic way, issues of racism, cultural boundaries and customs, morals, parenting, war, faith, and love.
Largely, this is a movie made up of relationships, much like Million Dollar Baby. What's interesting is that while Clint Eastwood is a part of almost every relationship, there are so many of them and they all contribute to an amazing picture. His relationship with his now deceased wife, his petty adult children and their even pettier children. His relationship with the Hmong neighbors, particularly their son, and also with his wife's young just-out-of seminary priest. Even his relationships with his old dog and beautiful, mint condition, 1972 Gran Torino come into play.
It's one of the best movies i've ever seen, and i highly recommend it. There is strong language and a great deal of racial epitaphs, but there is no sexuality or gratuitous violence. In fact, the violence is greatly downplayed and most of the movie is about the good and decent relationship forged between Clint and his neighbors. Only about 10% of the movie is as dark as the preview.
Good previews before the movie: Taken, The International. Also, The Soloist looks phenomenal, absolutely fantastic.
Wednesday, January 21, 2009
Sweet predictability
That's what the Daily Show is for me. It's familiar. It's always the same. It's slightly stale. It's not the best out there, but it'll do. And i know... what to expect.
i watched the coronation today and i knew as i watched it precisely which things John Stewart would make fun of, which ones he wouldn't, and how he would do it. It was cake.
i knew he'd poke fun at how Rick Warren said Obama's kids' names. i knew he'd poke fun at the Reverend's closing prayer, but in a cute soft way. i knew he'd make fun of Cheyney in a wheelchair. And i knew he wouldn't make fun of Obama's complete inability to get through his oath of office, despite 8 years of making fun of Bush's blunders.
Then finally... i was surprised... slightly. i noticed that Obama's speech was largely exactly the same as dozens of speeches Bush gave. Not the same ideas... but many were the exact same words. So John did manage to put together a montage of the clips. i'll hopefully have that soon as a link. i'd rather not do the work myself.
Ah, predictability... feels like home.
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
Identity v. Unity
This brings me to the problem i have with all the fuzzy math. How can we ever have racial harmony, let alone equality, if we still conform to labels? These are labels that don't only mean nothing in light of (now) very old genetic research, but which don't mean anything on the surface with a "white" and "black" parent.
i just finished watching Huckleberry Finn (1974) this weekend. At one point, Jim, Huck's escaping slave friend, begins to bleed and Huck says, "Jim, your blood is red just like mine!" Jim answers, "Huck, you didn't know that?" i think Morgan Freeman said it best when asked how to get rid of racism in an interview on 60 Minutes...
"Stop talking about it. I'm going to stop calling you a white man. And I'm going to ask you to stop calling me a black man."
i don't think that necessarily ignoring race is the best way to truly bring about unity or equality, but i think a start would be to all start making a concerted and clear effort to recognize it as a human construction that has been just as damaging as any man-made barrier or written law. Until people start saying, "i'm a person, i'm a citizen, i'm a human being with the same blood running through my veins, standing on the same earth created by someone who loves me because i am made in the very image of the divine," this country will move toward divisiveness every day, and away from the unity we so desperately need.
i think there's a good chance Barack Obama understands this far better than most of those who support or campaigned for him. i hope that in his position as influential leader, he can bring some change to the way we think and uphold racial barriers through labels and rhetoric.
Monday, January 12, 2009
I wanna watch The Watchmen
However, as i told you a few weeks ago, i've joined a book group that is reading graphic novels, and our second one for the month of February (just prior to the movie's release in early March) is The Watchmen. Even with all my studying and classwork, i've nearly devoured it. It's a massively huge and detailed novel, which made the top 100 list of Time's best novels of the 20th century. It's phenomenal.
i've now seen more previews and behind the scenes footage and interviews. It probably has more detail than any movie ever made, including Titanic. In fact, it's like Titanic times 10. Why? Titanic's director only had one time period, one specific to a couple of weeks on a location as small as (yes, small) as the Titanic. The Watchmen spans 1938 to the late 1980's and is global in its scope. (It also includes Mars and other dimensions)
Also, some very exciting actors have joined the project, including Billy Crudup (Almost Famous, Sleepers, Mission Impossible III) and a personal favorite of mine, Carla Gugino (Snake Eyes, Sin City, American Gangster, Righteous Kill, The Unborn). i'm also interested to see how stars who most recently have played in chick flicks, Malin Akerman (The Proposal, 27 Dresses, Shotgun Love Dolls) and Jeffrey Dean Morgan (Grey's Anatomy, PS I Love You) will do as action heroes, but the previews sure give me some optimism.
Friday, January 09, 2009
Bragging a little...
She has a fun swap thing with this woman in Sweden and in exchange for some fun goodies from there, she sent the woman some hand-knitted items and this was her reaction...
Benita's blog
Monday, January 05, 2009
And so it ends...
January- Suppose you have a football team with 50 players.
February- Recently, Bill Clinton, while stumping for Hillary said that we "may need to slow down the economy to reduce global warming."
March- That's right. Greek is a fun language (note the sarcasm), and so is Latin.
April- No entries
May- I talked to several of you about this blog a week or two ago.
June- Straight from the NY Times, copied and pasted...
July- When in the course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with one another, and to assume among the powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the Laws of Nature and of Nature's God entitled them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation.
August- ...are the last 10 minutes of the Daily Show and the whole thirty minutes of the Colbert Report.
September-
October- i like...
November- Mama Mia!
December- It occurred to me today that many of you have not seen my magazine cover album.
Sunday, January 04, 2009
This just in...
He says to do church right...
"We look at it as relationship building and stop viewing it as information sharing."
Friday, January 02, 2009
For students of all ages...
Sites...
Wikipedia - An online encyclopedia. Without a doubt the best place to START your search about any topic. However, if you are writing a paper, use this only as a STARTING place and use the sources listed at the bottom as resources.
IMDb - The web's best database for info on any movie, character, actor, actress, director, score, producer, tralier, trivia and mistakes! If you can dream it, it's listed on IMDb and nearly every name is a link to an article, much like Wiki.
AddAll - Probably the best tool on the web for locating books. You can search by Author, Title, Publisher, ISBN, etc and it searches 36 of the web's biggest bookstores and lists the results by price, lowest to highest. The listed price INCLUDES shipping and handling so you don't have to do the math. It also includes a link to go directly there and purchase it.
Drop.io - tool which allows private file sharing via web, email, phone or fax up to 100 MB in size. So you can send MP3's and movies and pictures in a snap.
KickYoutube - For those of you who are not content to merely watch youtube videos, but want to download and send them to friends and/or watch them later when your connection is unavailable (like for a class, presentation or retreat). Simply look up your favorite youtube video. When you're on the page to view it, go up to html and insert the word "kick" immediately after the "www." and before the "youtube.com/" (For example, if the video is
Encalc - A free web based advanced scientific calculator to help you with long mathematical equations.
Applications...
Digsby - Allows you to use one program for AIM, Yahoo messenger, MSN, and more. You install it and sign in as you would with AIM or Yahoo or MSN and then you add accounts like the aforementioned, as well as FaceBook, MySpace, Gmail, etc. You can choose popup alerts that let you know when you've received mail or people wrote on your wall and so on. It's also a much better interface for Facebook chat, since it's similar to AIM or Yahoo.
Mozilla - Much more stable and much less of a memory hog than MS Explorer. If you don't have it, get it.
Also, if you're not using Gmail yet, what are you waiting for? It has the best interface of any webmail program by far, search capabilities for looking through old e-mails that are unparalleled, and a million other useful tools. Google calendar is among the best tools for staying organized and for sharing your schedule with significant others who need that information. Google reader is also one of the best tools for reading all your favorite blogs in one place. In conjunction with Mozilla Firefox, this is the best way to stay organized and efficient, especially if you're lazy or disorganized, but it's great for everyone.